Looking around the Web, I spotted
this posting on a blog, with reference to candidate (and former Senator)
Rick Santorum:
At a campaign stop in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina today, a woman told Rick and Karen Santorum that she's trying to reconcile her support for him with the fact that her son is gay and he and his friends react poorly at the mention of Santorum's name because they think he hates gay people.
Replied Karen Santorum: “I think it's very sad what the gay activists have done out there. They've vilified him and it's so wrong. Rick does not hate anyone. He loves them. What he has simply said is marriage shouldn't happen. But as far as hating, it's very unfortunate that that has happened. And a lot of it is backyard bullying.”
Said Rick: “This is a public policy difference. And the problem is that some see that as a personal assault.”
He went on to reply that children deserve a mother and father and unless that is promoted there will be less of it, adding: “… There's all sorts of other relationships that people have, and they are valuable relationships — whether they are amorous relationships or friendship relationships or familial relationships — they're all important, they all have value they all should be affirmed. But that does not mean that we should change the laws to order — to create an atmosphere where children and families are not being promoted.”
Karen Santorum's saying “He loves them,” I suppose, is consistent with the
Catholic Church's policy (and that of many other Christians, but I mention the Catholic Church because that is
Santorum's religion) of "love the sinner, hate the sin." But I, for one, find it
ridiculous. A person is the sum total of his beliefs and actions, nothing more, nothing less. I cannot love someone who does hateful things — at least fully; I can certainly love the person in those aspects that are not hateful to me. But in any case, to put myself in the position of those “gay activists” to which Karen Santorum referred, I would rather be
hated, but left alone without interference, than
loved, but prevented from doing something that I feel necessary to my life's fulfillment.
The position that
“children deserve a mother and father and unless that is promoted there will be less of it” fails to consider what children without “a mother and father” would have instead. A child with two parents, even if both the same sex, is
still better off than one with one, or even
none, because they have been abandoned. Nobody is advocating that one (or both) parents of a child who
has “a mother and father” should abandon that child, so what point is Santorum trying to make?
I strongly believe that laws should prevent something only if somebody would be
harmed by the act they would prevent — and nobody has pointed out to me
anybody who would be hurt by allowing two men, or two women, to assume the status of a married couple. So the only harm that anyone can argue is to God's order — if one assumes that marrying someone of the same sex is a sin. And violations of God's order should be left to
God —
not the State — to punish. The
Catholic Church may believe homosexual activity is a sin; certainly there are religious communities that do not. (The
Episcopal Church has chosen a homosexual bishop — though this has led to a split within the church.) In the spirit of the
First Amendment, if something is considered
wrong by one religious group, but
not by another, the Government has no business banning it.